Stop Expecting Figs from Thorns

When you find yourself constantly giving people second, third, or even fourth chances without seeing any real change, it’s time to take a step back and evaluate. That’s not mercy; that’s madness. The Bible reminds us in Proverbs 26:11, “As a dog returns to its vomit, so a fool repeats his foolishness.” If someone keeps sowing thorns into your life, expecting them to suddenly sprout sweet figs is just setting yourself up for disappointment.

We often want to believe that people can change, and while transformation is possible; thanks to grace and redemption. We can’t ignore patterns. If someone is consistently sowing dishonor, why on earth would you expect peace in that relationship? Romans 12:18 tells us, “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” But there’s a limit to that “as far as it depends on you.” When their actions drain your joy and distort your identity, it’s a clear sign that this situation isn’t part of God’s best for you.

Let’s not forget that our purpose is too precious to be entangled in unhealthy dynamics. Galatians 5:1 encourages us to stand firm and not let ourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. If your connection to someone is robbing you of your joy and causing confusion about who you are, it’s time to set some boundaries. Remember, you’re not called to be a doormat; you’re meant to flourish and thrive. Don’t be afraid to let go of what’s not serving you; it’s not just a choice; it’s an act of self-love and faith in what God truly wants for your life.